It was sunny, chilly, and windy today which could have been a good day if it hadn't been for the wind. But the wind made it bad enough that I didn't want to go outside and do anything useful, so as is often the case I stayed inside and didn't do much of anything.
But even that is something I'm thankful for. Because I know how fortunate I am to be able to make the decision to go do something useful or to sit around and do nothing. Frankly I'm happy doing either one, and I'm slowly getting over the guilt that's been instilled in me my entire life that I'm supposed to be doing... “something”.
You know how it is at work, if you don't have something important to do, you have to look busy. Well that concept of looking busy often follows you home and gets ingrained into your real life so that you feel guilty if you're not doing... “something”. That feeling doesn't go away just because you move into an RV. In fact in some cases it gets worse. If your feelings of self-worth are based on “what you do” instead of “who you are”, then when you retire and move into the RV of your dreams, with no job to go to, suddenly you don't have very much to do and are faced with the realization that “who you are” is all you have left.
I run into folks like this at RV parks every once in a while and they're always busy..... Busy, busy, busy, they seem to have endless things to do, if they're not waxing their motorhome there waxing their toad. You have to keep your toad waxed or it will hop away in the middle of the night. They will sit under their awning in the afternoon with a drink in their hands but even then they jump up every few minutes to go do something. Now if they really enjoy living like that then more power to them. But often when I talk to them I find out they both just retired and have been full-timeing for a couple of months, and haven't yet learned that no one cares if their motorhome is shiny, or if they don't bother to iron their shirts, or their toad has mud on it, all the other RVers around them care about is whether their nice folks are not.
I don't think I've ever seen this behavior happening in the boondocks, it's always in RV parks, and if the RV Park has “Resort” in its name this behavior seems more prevalent. I have a theory on why this is, but I could very easily be wrong. I think people living in the boondocks have either learned to be more laid-back or have always been more laid-back than most other people. And enjoy the laid-back atmosphere of the location and the few people that boondock around them. On the other hand the denizens of the “Resort” have more money to go RVing because they've usually been go-getters, and movers and shakers, living the kind of stressful lives that often accompanys making more money.
I guess I fit somewhere in between those two. I've had times in my life when I “moved and shook” and “went and got” and other times when I've been so laid-back I was nearly catatonic. I suppose that's why I'm able to recognize the need to live a happy stress-free life but still feel the urge to go polish a toad.
P.S. for you non-RVers out there, and you know who you are, a toad is the little car that is "towed" behind your motorhome.